My husband and I met each other when we were still in college. He is already a smoker by then. Of course, I didn’t mind it at first. Not until our relationship has gone to a deeper level. I became more concerned of his health and well-being. That if we end up marrying each other and he’s still a smoker, he might get serious disease caused by smoking cigarettes and who knows? I might end up a widow.
This kind of thinking was instilled unto me when one of my Uncle died from Lung Cancer. And it is because of smoking. I saw how his children (my cousins) struggled when he left to be at peace with the Lord. I don’t want my future children to experience “that”. Because it is preventable. Only if a smoker would completely stop from smoking.
Please don’t get me wrong if you’re reading this and you are a smoker. I do not hate you. I just don’t like the smoke and what it does to you.
And so, his smoking habits became a familiar topic of our petty fights and arguments. I couldn’t understand why he won’t just stop from doing it. I had strong belief in him that he could quit, only if he really wanted to. But he can’t. I know he tried. His cigarette intake decreased to 3-5 sticks per day from the usual 1 pack a day back when were still in college. But I wasn’t satisfied because I wanted him to completely STOP.
I have helped him in almost all the possible way that I know but to no avail. I guess cigarettes are very addictive. As simple as that.
But I still want to help him quit the bad habit. Because he is my husband and I don’t want to grown old alone. Prevention is still better than cure, right?
So how do we help them? Here are 5 of the things I did for my husband to help him quit cigarette smoking:
1) I Bought Him His 1st Vaping Kit a.k.a E-cigarette
It was his 26th birthday last March 2016 and I bought it for him as a suprise birthday gift. He was really very happy when the package arrived in his office.
So what makes Vaping different from cigarette smoking? This infographic from Vapersoul site:
I will post more about my husband’s vaping experience soon.
2) Stop Nagging
Nagging my husband and giving him sarcastic remarks about his smoking habits before was one of my big mistakes in trying to make him quit the bad habit. ‘Til I finally understood that quitting it is really very hard on his part and that it gives him a lot more stress and pressure when I constantly nag him about it.
3) Encourage them to do other activities or sports that will distract them from smoking a cigarette stick
Yes. It’s a big help. Join them in doing sports or go with them for a jog… It’s a win-win thing for the both of you specially if you also need to do some working-out and de-stressing.
Actually, I am excited to play badminton with my husband again since we just bought our new sneakers last Sunday. Yay! 🙂 finally!
4) Be patient with your partner
Recognize that quitting the bad habit itself is really hard. It is frustrating and exhausting for them as it takes a lot amount of effort on their part. For those who doesn’t even use the vaping technique, some may even be experiencing withdrawal symptoms. So be patient. They need your support above anything else.
I have come to accept that my husband’s smoking habits will not go away in an instant. But I believe he will be able to stop smoking eventually. Even now that he is vaping, he told me that his goal is to finally stop vaping after a year. And I appreciate his efforts for that. 🙂
Right now, as of this writing, my husband has not smoked a single stick of cigarette for almost 2 months already. He doesn’t miss the taste and feel of the cigarette smoke that he usually puff.
I am happy to say that my husband is on his way to quitting the bad habit. For me, it’s a good thing rather than not taking any action at all.
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