How do you picture your dream home?
When I was a kid, I am fantasizing about having a big house. The ones I see in Cartoons and Movies. Big. Beautiful. Extravagant. A place where me and my siblings, cousins and childhood friends can play hide and seek, run all day and shout our lungs out as a sign that we are indeed having fun. My dream house has a garden where I can throw a picnic-like party or grow different kinds of plants and flowers (even though I don’t like flowers that much). My house is blue, like a calm blue sky… Because blue is my favorite color!
But as I grew up (and old), my preferences became different. I no longer wanted a big house. Because:
- I got scared of big houses – thanks to horror films! Hue hue hue! 😛
- A big house means a bigger mess to clean. It is high maintenance, too!
- I have learned that not all big houses are considered a happy house
The third point means a lot to me. Sadly, I have met a lot of people living in very beautiful houses they cannot even call their home. Some are living in (“from what I’ve thought”) a comfortable life, yet they will reveal to me that they only live with – if not their mother – their father only (or with their grandparents alone). I remember a friend whom I envy a little because she seemed to live a very happy life with her family, in a beautifully engineered house and yet when she told me that she’s an adopted child of her parents… My heart bleeds a little for her. I’ve seen in her eyes the longing to meet who her real parents are.
I have come to realize that no life is indeed perfect. That is when I stopped fantasizing about having a perfect life. I stopped dreaming of big houses. The story of my friend hit me very hard because I feel like I am ungrateful with the small house I was living in years ago. I felt guilty. But you know what? That friend of mine also taught me an important lesson in life. Her life may seem flawed in reality because she doesn’t even know who her real parents are. Yet nobody notices that sad truth – because she chooses not to become sad about it. She chose to be happy and feel grateful that she was able to have good adoptive parents who gave her the life she deserves and taught her how to be a kind and loving person that she really is now.
From that moment on, I told myself that I wouldn’t mind living in a small space as long as my family’s relationship with one another is alright and intact. As long as we live in a safe community, even I don’t have a garden of my own I will still be forever grateful.
True enough, when my husband and I got married, we moved in to a condominium unit in Parañaque. It is a small studio type but can be provisioned to have 1 to 2 small rooms. It is really a little space but is filled with joy and love because of our dear little one, Gabriel.
It can sometimes be a hassle because when the kitchen gets dirty, I feel like our living room area is already messy too! I would sometimes browse the Internet to look for a house & lot that is for sale. A house where I can have a bigger kitchen, living room and even a mini library! Unfortunately, it’s either very far from the city (where most of our relatives are living) or very expensive for us – we just can’t afford it! But it’s okay… I leave it all to God. I would always pray that if God wants us to live in a bigger house than what we have right now, it will happen in His own time.
Everything happens for a reason! 🙂 I know God gave us a small space we now call our home because He knows I don’t like a messy house and yet I don’t have all the time to clean it (since I am currently working in the office too). I have a baby to take care of and prioritize first. He doesn’t want me to get too tired, right?
Some are blessed to live in a bigger house. And we are blessed to live in a little space. I am contented and happy that we are at least living in our own home. After all, building a happy and purposeful life, and creating a God-fearing, God-centered family is what really matters to me.
Anyone can build and live in a big house. But it takes a loving family to build a home.