Two weeks ago, I’ve watched a viral video in Facebook wherein two siblings named Niana Guerrero and Ranz Kyle is dancing – or perhaps grooving to the 2015 Hit Songs Sibling Dance. I really love their style and the little girl got that swag! They are really awesome dancers that I wanted to dance with them, too! Unfortunately, I’m not even a good dancer at all. So I’ve been dreaming about having kids who can dance as great and graceful as they do. Even I only have one child as of this writing, I am already hyped by the idea of recording Gabriel and his little sister’s (hopefully!!!) #SiblingGoals video in the near future. And it will go viral around the internet. They will be social media sensations. Who knows? They might even be invited to The Ellen DeGeneres TV Show!
Am I being too unrealistic? My first born’s just almost 10 months old. He can barely walk without someone guiding and hold him. My (imaginary) daughter’s not yet even conceived (because we plan on having her 4-5 years from now). And yet I am already dreaming of 2 kids dancing their way to stardom! Hey, wait. Why not? They can be anything that they want (as long as it’s not related to drug and alcohol abuse). They can dance, sing, write and draw. They can succeed in anything they will choose to do. Yes, they can. And I believe in them. Why won’t I? I am their mother, right?
Though I do not want to impose something on my child(ren) which they do not really like; or manipulate them to do something that is against their will. Except, maybe, on meal and bath times. Lol. I only want them to grow up as a dreamer. An aspirant. An achiever.
I want them to believe in themselves because mommy really does believe in them. I want to give them some of the things I felt I’ve been deprived of.
Confidence and support.
When I was still a child, I would often hear the words “you can’t”. It can be hurtful to a child’s tiny heart. Plenty of times that the adults have told me that I do not dance gracefully. And so I never did. I used to sing my heart out but it’s unpleasant to the ears. That’s why I stopped doing so. I can hardly even stand in front of too many people without my hands shaking (I’m talking about dancing and singing here). Those are two of my heart’s frustrations because I could’ve been a good dancer or singer, only that I stopped exerting effort on enhancing those abilities because I felt that no one trusted me that I could do better on that. I grew up feeling anxious about this aspect of my life.
You see? Every word a child would hear especially from us parents has a great impact on what they will become in the future. It can either crash their heart or strengthen it. It can destroy their dreams or encourage it.
I remember that my first dream was to become a teacher because that is my mother’s profession. And it changed over time. There was a time that I wanted to be a doctor. And a nurse. A cook. A dancer. An actress. And much more. Those dreams started as little dreams ’til I have finally figured out that I wanted to be a writer.
There are so many things that I know I CAN do but lack the courage to do so. And it can also happen to my children if I won’t show that I trust them. I must always show support and believe in the abilities of my children so they won’t grow up doubting themselves! Whatever it is that they will choose to do. Be it writing, singing, dancing or whatever their heart desire is. I only want them to grow fully confident, enhancing their strengths and pushing their way to reach their dreams or goals in life.
If they appear to be lousy singers or dancers, I wouldn’t care. They’re still little and has a long way to go. Their life has plenty of room for more improvement. I will sing or dance with them every single day even if my voice runs out or my knees get too tired. Because they will never be not good enough for mommy. Because for me, they are awesome kids with awesome dreams and they’ve got awesome parents who will always believe and support them all the way!
Invest trust and plant seed of confidence to every child. You’ll never know what they could become.